Forgive

Forgivness is hard for a lot of people, and it still something I struggle with everyday. My life has not been easy behind the scenes, I have dealt with some really hard things and usually I have done this alone. This is where I have gone wrong, you are never alone in what you are dealing with, and keeping things inside only makes it worse. Here are some ways you can also work on your forgiveness with things that are more difficult to forgive.

Talk to someone

Talk things out with a trusted friend or therapist. Getting a different perspective on the situation can always help you when you are struggling. You might not always like the outcome, but it is also helpful to just talk it out sometimes. There are also so many online groups on facebook, meetup, and other online sources. You are never alone look up a support group and meet like minded people that you can talk to.

Write it out

Make a list of everyone who has ever done you wrong. You can start small, “In sixth grade I got lunch detention because someone was talking to me”. This is so insignificant now but in that moment I was so angry and obviously if I am still talking about it now I have still held on to some resentment. But, this is an easy one to forgive because it was so long ago and it does not affect me in the same way it once did. Then write a letter for that person about the experience and how it made you feel; at the end write I forgive you. Once the letter is complete read it out loud to yourself or someone else if you feel comfortable, and then burn or tear up the paper and let it go. Once you do a couple easy ones try some that are a bit harder.

It is inevitable that we will have to forgive people, no one is perfect. Somethings will be harder than others, but walking around with hatred for someone takes up so much energy. In the end to just say I forgive you and move on will make you happier and life a more fulfilled life.