In my few years of living I have been surrounded with negative people and I have picked up on those negative tendencies because it is so easy to be negative. However, I decided that I didn’t want to do what is easy and I wanted to be different than everyone around me.
It is so easy to be negative and have a bad mindset, here are some tips to help you change your mindset.
Instead of saying I have to do laundry say I get to do laundry.
This mindset will not only give you a new outlook on life but will also help with Gratitude. Some people don’t have clothes to wash or a place to wash them. My mom went almost a year without a washer or dryer and she had to go to a laundry mat or my grandparents house to wash her clothes. This was not easy for her or my grandparents, and I did not realize this until I took a step back and looked at it from a different perspective. Sometime we take things for granted and don’t realize how lucky we are.
In every bad thing that happens you can find one good thing that happened.
A lot of times when I am driving especially in the city I get lost and instead of getting mad and frustrated I just keep going and make a U-turn and laugh. I don’t get upset because I hate driving and don’t want to be in the car longer than I have to, instead I get to listen to anther song and jam out for a little longer. However, when I am with my mom and she misses a turn I see it in her whole body and she gets so frustrated and usually cusses. So, instead of focusing on the bad just laugh about it and move on there is nothing you can change about the past all you can do is move on and find the good in the situation.
Instead of saying I am sorry for being late say thank you for waiting on me.
This can be a tough one, as humans we are programed to apologize for everything and always think things are our fault. But, in reality it was not our fault that there was traffic or that the line at Starbucks was so long, yes we could have left earlier but we didn’t and there is nothing we can do about it now. Give yourself a break. When we thank people instead of apologizing normally it catches them off guard a little and it makes them feel better too. If someone came in to a meeting late and said I am sorry and rattled off some excuse for why they were late you would probably roll your eyes and be annoyed, however if they came in and said thank you for waiting on me you would feel acknowledged and have your annoyed feelings validated in some way.
Accepting Compliments
Most of the girls I have talked to struggle with taking compliments and don’t see themselves the way others do. Me on the other hand, I was told from a young age that I was beautiful everyday. My mom made sure to tell me and my sister everyday that we were beautiful because that is something that she never heard growing up. However, it is my downfall because now anytime someone tells me I am pretty I say “I know”. Yes, I know that makes me sound awful but it just comes out. Other girls normally say “No, you are pretty”, but neither answers are right. When I say “I know” it throws people off and it is kind of a big F you, and when you say “No, you are pretty” it makes things awkward and then you just go back and forth for a few minuets complimenting each other with really no meaning behind it. So from now on just say “Thank you” and leave it at that. Take the compliment and move on because i promise you if they did not think you were pretty or they really did not like the dress you were wearing they would not have said anything at all.
Breaking the Bond 